Berlin has a well-earned reputation as a Mecca of sex-positive partying. There are numerous dedicated sex clubs and a whole host of sex parties. Navigating this world, especially as a newcomer, can be daunting. To help, we’ve compiled a guide to some of the main events – though we ask you to read up on the etiquette of these spaces before you go. Keep it safe, consensual and fun.
Klub Verboten
For dedicated perverts
It might have started in London, but we know that Berlin is Klub Verboten’s spiritual home. Since coming here in 2021, Klub Verboten has quickly carved out its place as one the city’s best kink events. This self-described ‘pro-pervert’ party has a focus on fetish, BDSM and above all else, consent and safety.
They have a well-trained safeguarding team on hand to make sure everything runs as smoothly as possible. Klub Verboten is perhaps better suited to more experienced perverts than first-timers, but everyone is welcome, so familiarise yourself with the excellent rules section on their website and make a date.
Four Play
For the Loud and Proud
When this party started more than eight years ago, every single kink party was all-black everywhere. Four Play encouraged everyone to embrace colour in their outfits, and they can take a lot of credit for spreading this vibe to other parties. The parties are legendary too, with people in the scene regarding it as perhaps the premier party in the KitKatClub calendar.
- KitKatClub, Köpenicker Str. 76, Brückenstr. 1, Mitte-Kreuzberg, Instagram.
Pinky Promise
For colourful kinksters
The whole ethos and drive of Pinky Promise is to make sex positivity more accessible. Their events include workshops and educational sessions on topics like radical intimacy, non-monogamy and fem sensuality. This isn’t to say this isn’t a full-on party, too – every event has a massive cabaret-style show plus a stacked DJ lineup.
The dress codes encourage people to have fun and express themselves with colour – as opposed to the typical black Berlin club wear. There is also a decked-out play area for couples and friends, so you can find space to explore, connect and have fun.
House of Lunacy
For extravagant hedonists
One of the biggest and most beloved sex-positive parties in Berlin, House of Lunacy transforms Wilde Renate into a fantasy realm that feels like stepping into another world. Every party has a theme and the dress code is strict – if you do not make an effort you will not get in.
Helpfully, the team put mood boards on their website for inspiration and guidance. People really go the extra mile for this event and the costumes are often incredibly creative. Performance is also a huge part of House of Lunacy. Throughout the night, you’ll see some of the finest erotic dancers and performers putting on shows.
Kinktastisch
For friendly fetishists
Insomnia is Berlin’s foremost sex club and offers a tailor-made environment for sexual adventure. It’s open seven nights a week, with events ranging from those exclusively for sex to ones that also put a focus on clubbing and dancing. If you’re new to this space, Kinktastisch is the ideal event for dipping your toes in, as it offers the perfect mix of play and party.
All fetishes and genders are welcome, and each event features special performances, toy tryout areas and DJs. There is also a safety team of ‘unicorns’ that are on hand to help keep things safe and consensual and give guidance where needed. The dress code is broadly kink wear, so you can express yourself in whatever you feel most comfortable.
Pornceptual
For dark techno lovers
This queer-centric party has been going strong for more than a decade, making it one of the longest-running sex-positive parties in the city. Taking place in the labyrinthian underground rooms of Alte Münze, Pornceptual is dark and hard, matched by a music policy that leans towards the deep and pounding end of the techno spectrum.
It’s a winning combination that has brought the party series international renown with events also happening in places like New York, Paris and Tokyo. Pornceptual isn’t just an event series though, it’s also a platform for high-quality artistic porn.
Symbiotikka
For mid-week warriors
Working weekends or just gasping for a party during the week? Symbiotikka takes place at KitKatClub every Wednesday. The party has performers, DJs and a friendly crew of regulars.
- KitKatClub, Köpenicker Str. 76, Brückenstr. 1, Mitte-Kreuzberg, Instagram.
Paradise Garage
For disco hedonists
Despite only running for a relatively brief window between 1976 and 1987, New York club Paradise Garage is still spoken about and revered today. This kink party keeps the spirit of the era alive with the same style of music but adds a dose of Berlin’s sex-positivity to bring it into the current times.
- Club Oxi, Wiesenweg 1-4, Friedrichshain, Instagram.
Gegen
For power queers
Gegen has a well-deserved reputation as one of the strongest and best queer-centric sex-positive events in the city. This reputation has taken it beyond Berlin, with parties in places like Helsinki, Paris and Lyon.
